Ricky Raw's 31 Days of Game

Billed as “human nature and sexual politics” (not unlike my tagline), The Rawness has long served as one of the more timeless installations of various brands of Manosphere wit and wisdom. I can’t recall I time I’ve clicked on a Rawness link from Ferdinand Bardamu’s Sunday links page and not come away more enlightened one way or another.

Rawness proprieter T (AKA Ricky Raw) had a great series called 31 Days of Game in which he chronicled a bevy of game tips over the course of May 2010. Not wanting to steal the man’s thunder, I’ll just list them here.

1. When initially establishing eye contact with other people, especially an attractive woman, always make them break eye contact first.
2. When doing prolonged, intense eye contact, even if you have done everything right and awakened sexual interest in the girl, after two such instances your stock will start to plummet each additional time you maintain eye contact without actually making a move.
3. Approach Groups of Women Alone
4. Don’t Get Tunnel Vision.  Remember the Whole Group.
5. Always Aim to Talk Less Than Your Target.
6. Your Woman Can Never, Ever, Truly Be Your Best Friend or Closest Confidante.
7. On a primal level, a woman would rather share a high status man with others than have a beta or omega male all to herself.
8. Tell, Don’t Ask. [in terms of trying to get her to do something]
9. If the woman you desire offers you something, graciously accept it.
10. Aim for Charisma: Not Charm.
11. Do Not Talk Ex-Boyfriends.
12. Don’t Overcompensate and Become An Abusive Bully, Tyrant or a Robot.
13. You Already Have a Mother.
14. Avoid the Interest-Only Upgrade (I.O.U.) [dating a woman whose only attractive quality in your eyes is her sexual availability]
15. With women, there is almost no such thing as an accidental, meaningless touch. [That also goes for eye contact -Badger]
16. Women bond more intensely and passionately with a man who takes them on an emotional rollercoaster than a man who keeps them consistently happy.
17. Apologize for your actions, not your thoughts.
18. Don’t use self-deprecating humor except in rare occasions.
19. Talk To Your Fucking Friends [when out where the women are]
20. There’s a difference between sexual and horny.  Learn it.
21. Never Cower.
22. Have Platonic, Attractive Female Friends.
23. No matter how comfortable you feel with someone or how convinced you are that you are in a place of emotional safety with a partner, always remember that first and foremost you’re expected to be a man.
24. Work on Your Character.
25. No One Person Can Complete or Fix You.
26. Some interesting links guys should read.
27. Don’t Dance Ironically. (“…dancing is an advertisement of one’s comfort with their own sexual and sexual confidence, and nowadays the white males most cocky or confident enough about their sexuality to advertise it in such a flagrant and open way are gay men.”)
28. Everything Is A Test.
29. Front vs. Clout: You are what you chase, and you attract what you are.
30. Recognize and Avoid These Three Games: Rapo (a trap into rejection), Kick Me (passive aggressive baiting into victimhood), and Let’s You And Him Fight.
31. Everyone Plays Themselves Sometime

I’ll footnote to add this. To a beginner to social dynamics and inner game, this sounds like 31 different points of advice all over the place, which combine with dozens of other maxims to form a cacophany of seemingly-discordant lessons. After a while studying (and practicing), though, this stuff all becomes deductive, flowing lucidly from a few basic principles and a healthy dose of experience. It really does become congruent.

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