It’s become well understood in the circles I run in that social dominance – the tactical “owning” of a social situation, leadership of others, and demolition of social tests and challenges – is a key female attraction trigger. This is caricatured by some women who earnestly state “I want a man who won’t put up with my shit.” (It’s also the most accessible trigger for both young and less-than-intelligent men.)
It’s also understood, though more taboo to note, that a man’s ability to do physical violence has an influence on a significant portion of female attraction systems out there. This partially explains the preferred position of football, rugby and hockey players in the sexual hierarchy.
Now check this out, from the absolutely awesome film Back To The Future (that oddly and masterfully wedded science fiction with a nostalgic love story):
Not twenty minutes earlier in the film, Lorraine hits on Marty (who is, for those who haven’t seen the movie, her son) and tells him ”George is kinda cute and all, but I think a man should be strong…someone who can stand up for himself and protect the woman he loves.” It really only took a single display of courage and violence in standing up to his longtime tormentor Biff – up to that moment he had been a neurotic, passive geek – to light Lorraine’s fire. Instead of falling for him out of sympathy from his falling out of a tree, she falls for the guy who knocked out the biggest bully in the school.
She responds immediately to his moment of alpha, and he responds in turn, becoming a confident, well-style success in contrast to his original lot as a white-collar peon and prisoner of suburbia.