It’s become well understood in the circles I run in that social dominance – the tactical “owning” of a social situation, leadership of others, and demolition of social tests and challenges – is a key female attraction trigger. This is caricatured by some women who earnestly state “I want a man who won’t put up with my shit.” (It’s also the most accessible trigger for both young and less-than-intelligent men.)
It’s also understood, though more taboo to note, that a man’s ability to do physical violence has an influence on a significant portion of female attraction systems out there. This partially explains the preferred position of football, rugby and hockey players in the sexual hierarchy.
Now check this out, from the absolutely awesome film Back To The Future (that oddly and masterfully wedded science fiction with a nostalgic love story):
Not twenty minutes earlier in the film, Lorraine hits on Marty (who is, for those who haven’t seen the movie, her son) and tells him ”George is kinda cute and all, but I think a man should be strong…someone who can stand up for himself and protect the woman he loves.” It really only took a single display of courage and violence in standing up to his longtime tormentor Biff – up to that moment he had been a neurotic, passive geek – to light Lorraine’s fire. Instead of falling for him out of sympathy from his falling out of a tree, she falls for the guy who knocked out the biggest bully in the school.
She responds immediately to his moment of alpha, and he responds in turn, becoming a confident, well-style success in contrast to his original lot as a white-collar peon and prisoner of suburbia.
When a woman KNOWS you’ll fight, it’s a MAJOR tingle chick crack issue. Even. Women I’m friends with light up when they hear I got into a fight. At first they express concern for me being ok, then they want details about the fight: what did I do to drop dude.
Winning or losing is irrelevant to them, they just get turned on by the fact that I squabbed.
Yes, when I learned about game, this scene immediately came into my mind. He literally went from omega to alpha with that move.
How is owning a social situation for “less-than-intelligent” men, though? Intelligence a major prerequisite for leadership.
And then there’s the scene at the dance itself where he throws som guy down for trying to dance with Lorraine. He had a look of solid alpha at the moment, which obviously stays with him the rest of his life.
DWe,
Thanks for commenting! I had forgotten about “scram McFly, I’m cuttin’ in.” I used that line once at a high school dance; thankfully he didn’t pull a George McFly on me.
It recalls George Bailey’s line to a rival suitor at the school dance, “oh why don’t you stop annoying people?”
George Bailey’s line to a rival suitor at the school dance, “oh why don’t you stop annoying people?”
Wow. I am stealing that one for sure. It’s going to have a LOT of uses.
smiley,
“How is owning a social situation for “less-than-intelligent” men, though? Intelligence a major prerequisite for leadership.”
I get what you are saying, but we’re not talking about going to war or running for President here. A total dumbass can browbeat everybody into his opinion of where they should go for dinner or what movie they should see.
My point was that a dumb guy has limited potential for other female triggers like accumulating resources or gaining master, but he can still be socially dominant and turn a lot of women on that way.