I’ve written on openers before and it really bears repeating that the secret to approaching is really to just approach. In one of his writings I can’t even hope to look up right now, Roosh made the point that a woman will rarely if ever remember the opener itself, especially if it is followed up by an interesting conversation.
Think about how many people you know that you have no idea how you actually met them. Can you recall the exact first words you had with somebody? I don’t for most of my friends.
Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that the words you use have to somehow rationally convince her she should talk to you. The really important part of opening is that you are initiating conversation. Non-verbal cues like how you dress, how you walk and how you look her in the eye have already made her hindbrain’s decision as to whether she wants to respond to you.
It’s also easy to psych yourself out by trying to assemble an entire verbal invasion force, planning the course of the entire conversation before you open your mouth. You’ll never approach if you insist on all of this. The conversation will go places you can’t plan anyway.
There have been a couple of great posts recently on this issue:
Mike at Crime & Federalism says that men have lost their gameness and are taking rejection too personally because of it, and offers his dog as a role model.
Kane (welcome to the blogroll) says that the first secret to meeting women is to “talk to them!”
GIRLS CAN APPROACH TOO
Young women, many of would do well to throw away your own approach anxiety. You will absolutely get better results with men if you are comfortable doing some approaching yourself.
I understand many/most women don’t want to be seen as overly forward, but women can get away with much more subtle openers, like environmental observations or comments said to nobody in particular (“the line is long tonight” or “it’s really hot outside”). There’s also eye contact, smiling or body proximity.
Guys should take a woman saying anything to him or to the wind as an IOI and follow up with something interesting; if she responds to it with gusto, keep talking to her. If she demurs, she was just being polite.