Spengler’s Universal Law of Gender Parity is an exceedingly useful principle in social analysis and has been broadly cited in the Manosphere (Ferdinand Bardamu loves it, for one). First outlined in a 2004 Asia Times column, it goes as follows:
In every corner of the world and in every epoch of history, the men and women of every culture deserve each other.
It’s usually a strong rejoinder to plaintive cries of “where have all the good men gone?“
It was at the forefront of my mind when The Private Man posted about a website called My Crazy Girlfriend, (subtitled “a support group of sorts.”) As you might imagine, the site collects “funny and shocking stories” of female indiscretions. Such as:
On our second date my girlfriend almost made the waiter cry for taking so long in getting to our table. He apologized over and over again and said they were short staffed and he had double the amount of tables as usual but she didn’t really show much mercy. After she ordered and he left I looked over at her and she kind of laughs and says “wow, I’m such a bitch when I’m hungry, sorry about that.”
My girlfriend and I were running some errands in my car a couple of months ago. After lunch I felt like I had some food stuck in my teeth so I kept looking in the rear-view to see if I had gotten it with my numerous attempts. All of a sudden my girlfriend rips the rear-view mirror off the front windshield and say to “quit making it so fucking obvious.” Apparently she saw me looking in the mirror and turned around to see a women in the car behind us and naturally assumed I kept looking back at her.
On a recent trip to Washington state my girlfriend was so fed up with the lack of vegetarian options on the menu that she left the restaurant we were at (with a group of eight people btw) to go nearby to a Whole Foods to get a beefless patty that she brought back to the restaurant and asked the waiter to have the kitchen prepare for her. They can’t prepare outside food so she ended up with a raw beefless patty in a bag. She ordered one of the vegan menu items eventually. We’ve called her Beefless in Seattle since the trip, which she hates.
Let’s be straight about this: these girls may be crazy, but these guys are whipped. As shocking as the stories is the fact that the website isn’t called “My Crazy Ex-Girlfriend.” Guys are staying with girls, it’s classic Spengler – we have a society where men are generally weak, so a significant subset of women have been conditioned to act like this though a lifetime of suitors and boyfriends not saying “no.” Men who haven’t been taught that their personal dignity is more important than when and where their next lay is coming from (and that having some personal dignity and the willingness to walk away is more effective in getting future lays than being a supplicating doormat).
Like this guy:
I dated a girl off and on for a while, and she was definitely a little crazy and obsessive. I reluctantly allowed her to move into my two-bedroom apartment, and eventually I found myself feeling stuck in a relationship I didn’t want to be in and completely trapped. I met this other girl who I decided to leave my current girlfriend for. When I broke the news, she asked me to leave – my own apartment! – and so I obliged by staying at a friend’s next door for a few days while she packed her things. I came home a few days later to a completely empty house. Most of the furniture was gone, my Xbox and even my cat, which didn’t make sense since she moved back with her mother, who had a dog. The litter box was dumped everywhere and the place was a mess. Things just got worse from there. When she found out that I was seeing someone new, she had apparently called in a popular radio station in my city, which had a segment dedicated to fans being allowed to pick five songs and intro them like a radio host. She publicly trashed my name on the airs and picked songs about asshole guys doing terrible things. She also verbally harassed and threatened my new girlfriend repeatedly. Also, we went to a bar she frequented and knew the owner of, and my girlfriend’s winter coat and car keys go missing from the coat check area. I heard she laughed about it when she ‘found out’…
This story should just never had happened – if the guy had had enough stones to not date a crazy woman once he found out she was like that. From that point on, every step in the story is predictable. My thoughts on cohabitation are complicated, but they include don’t cohabit with an “off and on” girlfriend. Another would be don’t leave your property just because your love-in roommate asks you to. (Also don’t go places where your angry ex-girlfriend knows the management.)
Or how about this one:
Basically, tonight we had an argument about reddit, to my understanding I always thought that reddit had no porn at all. But believe it or not…… It does and she preceded by linking me with 5 tabs of porn from reddit. Then she hangs up on me.
The funny thing is, I try to call her back, but she has stubbornly called some other guy that used to like her. We’ve had fights over this guy countless times, actually she’s still on the phone with him now, it’s been 4 hours, i’m actually not sure whether it’s him. It could be some other guy that used to like her.
But i texted her a couple times telling her sorry and obviously showing my anger, but towards the end i just felt like absolute shit, i can’t deal with her anymore, i’ve asked her before if she could not call guys when we have a fight, but y’know she always does.
I’m sorry, this doesn’t really show her crazy-ness yet.
Basically, all this is my fault, she has reacted by ignoring me and threatening to dump me because I thought reddit had no porn. I told her earlier that today wasn’t exactly the best i’ve been all week either, but nah, she is much more important.
Now I have to wait for her to call me and do the ritual, i am sorry.
If she doesn’t call me then ritual no.2 go to her house to plead forgiveness.
It appears that she thinks he’s looking at porn and lying about it. His answer to her anger is to show high reactivity and to chase her while she tries to make him jealous by talking to other guys (obviously it’s working). If she doesn’t cool off he’s going to beg for forgiveness.
That sound you hear is the collective facepalming of the Badger Hut readership. Fortunately, we’re not the only ones – here are some comments from the site:
Don’t date these girls. Don’t be these guys.