Lozl From Blog Meta-Humor

Dagonet (The Quest for 50) tweeted about @singlegirlie, whom I had never heard of. I checked it out and according to my perusal, it does NOT appear to be your typical young single female Groundhog Day blog of post after post of “this guy I dated was a jerk AGAIN so everyone commenting please tell me it’s not my fault!”

(A hit: recalling a recent post of mine, I really enjoyed her post on a distinctive male online dating profile.)

Her most recent post was deliciously creative. WordPress logs search terms that readers use to get to your blog on Single Girl Blogging made a Q-and-A out of it, answering readers’ most forbidden questions. Read the whole thing, but here are some highlights:

Q: i’m a single girl i like to have sex how can i have
A: Easy peasy! http://losangeles.craigslist.org/cas/

Q: is there a single girl out there who is a perve
A: Yes! See above.

Q: why do girls laugh at my small peepee??
A: Because it’s funny, yo! And calling it a peepee doesn’t help.

Q: why do girls never make the first move
A: Because we’re pussies. We don’t want to be rejected any more than anyone else does. Then we hide behind the notion that men like to “hunt” and should therefore make the first move. It’s very convenient. (Disclaimer: This is why *I* don’t make the first move. Other women may have different reasons.)

Q: help for women when they have to go toilet infront of boyfrnds
A: Close the door. If possible, play loud music. Bring matches. Read this.

Q: i’m i love with someone i slept with a couple of times
A: No you’re not, sweet pea. That’s just the oxytocin speaking. It’ll wear off.

Q: where the f*ck is my prince
A: He does not exist. Every man will have flaws that annoy the shit out of you. The trick is to find the one whose flaws annoy you at a reasonably tolerable level.

(This last one sounds like Susan Walsh‘s top search referral of “why don’t I have a boyfriend?”)

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31 responses to “Lozl From Blog Meta-Humor

  1. I stopped reading her blog when she did a post on dating a nice guy and how all girls really want nice guys.

    That kind of disinformation is dangerous. The only guys who will listen to that advice are the guys who are already “nice” and getting consistently LJBFed as a result of it.

    Roosh replied to Dagonet’s tweet saying that the ratio of followers to following is more important. I tend to agree.

    Btw Badger, what’s your twitter handle?

  2. Bb

    I want to blast the word “nice” out of the SMP. It’s so very inaccurate. Let’s get rid of it. I’m sure I’m preaching to the choir, but…

    Men, DON’T BE “NICE” if to the girl nice means…

    “I will do everything she says because that way I can get into her pants,” or

    “I will do everything for her because she’s too beautiful / frail to do anything for herself and she must not stain her hands or wrinkle her brow with work,” or

    “I will follow her into the dark pathways of life and guide her with a warm lantern so she will not stub her toe on the rocks of despair”…well, you get the picture.

    These behaviors to a Woman of Character will make her resentful. She’s mighty might, and wants you to be of equal or greater value.

    A Woman of Weakness will love these behaviors, but throw you to the wolves. If you want to play around with a WoW (all up and down that F2 ladder) then have at it, but your complaints will ring hollow.

    I’ve noticed that a lot of men commenting / writing on the Manosphere have said that they got all this advice on being “nice” from other women—their mom, sister, aunt, godmother, nosy lady in the elevator, etc.

    Why was this so? Where were the men in their lives? Dad, brother, uncle…

  3. @Bb wrote:

    “Where were the men in their lives? Dad, brother, uncle…”

    Those guys were equally clueless in most cases. They knew just enough to form a relationship or get laid once in a while, but still concluded that women were just “crazy” or “unpredictable”.

  4. “Those guys were equally clueless in most cases. They knew just enough to form a relationship or get laid once in a while, but still concluded that women were just “crazy” or “unpredictable”.”

    This was/is my dad – wonderful father, accomplished, respected, great man, but without any real idea about women. From what my grandma tells me, my mom chased him and he might have been an eternal bachelor had she not. He was satisfied with the rest of his life and just wasn’t that interested in chasing girls. I guess that functioned as a small bit of natural game to be honest. (Young ladies, pay attention – my mom took the risk of pursuit to lock down a man who was going places, and was rewarded handsomely for it.)

    Interestingly, I think part of my motivation in learning game was that I admire him so much and wanted to make him proud by being the best at everything I could. And while he wouldn’t fault me for being bad with women, I didn’t want to put him in that position.

  5. Bb,

    Two other phenomena in “where were the fathers”:

    1. The divorce generation forcibly separated fathers from their children in many cases.

    2. Mother-centric obsessive parenting alienated fathers from their traditional “lead the children” role, and alienated husbands from their wives and took away key role modeling from the kids’ radar screens.

    http://badgerhut.wordpress.com/2011/03/26/marriage-is-part-of-parenting/

  6. “I will follow her into the dark pathways of life and guide her with a warm lantern so she will not stub her toe on the rocks of despair”

    LOL Good one.

  7. Bb

    Thx Badger. I do think f the mother’s alienated, the father’s also abdicated. There’s a shared dynamic there.

    Re your link, I agree today that parenting has taken a back seat to marriage relationships. It’s a lot of work.

    If were blogging, one of my first posts would be “Small children, the ultimate cock block: how to keep your sex life active in early parenthood.”

  8. SayWhaat

    “Q: why guys call a girl psycho when she gets upset over a breakup?1
    A: Because it makes them feel less guilty about breaking up with her. If she gets upset, it’s because she’s “psycho,” not because of anything he did.”

    This. Whenever a guy describes a previous girl as “psycho” or “crazy”, a smart girl will begin to wonder what he did to make her that way.

  9. Bb

    I don’t. I wonder “how hot was she?” Anyway, women are responsible for their own crazy—if they are so. Men don’t make them that way.

  10. SayWhaat

    “Anyway, women are responsible for their own crazy—if they are so. Men don’t make them that way.”

    I agree with you to a point. There are certain things a man does (out of obliviousness or actual malice) that can make any good woman go feral.

  11. Stephenie Rowling

    “2. Mother-centric obsessive parenting alienated fathers from their traditional “lead the children” role, and alienated husbands from their wives and took away key role modeling from the kids’ radar screens.”
    ITA. Men had no role on parenting anymore. My guess is that the mother used to train the kids into the Beta traits he will need to keep the girl (being Nice) and the father used to train the kid into the Alpha traits he needed to built attraction (no pedestalize her…unless she earns it). But nowadays men are seems as dumb, creepers, abusive, controlling…if they are not allowing the women on their lives to do as they please including raising the children. Thus many men only learn half of the mating dance and sadly the half that only works once the girl gives you the chance, something that is again discouraged on this culture, YMMV.

  12. Retrenched

    “Whenever a guy describes a previous girl as “psycho” or “crazy”, a smart girl will begin to wonder what he did to make her that way.”

    So if a girl says her last boyfriend was a jerk, asshole, crazy or whatever, do you wonder what she did to make him that way?

  13. Bb

    There are certain things a man does (out of obliviousness or actual malice) that can make any good woman go feral.

    Can you give a specific example of a man *making* a woman behave in a certain way?

    @Retrenched right, it isn’t typically applied the other way. Seems unfair.

  14. OffTheCuff

    Why was this so? Where were the men in their lives? Dad, brother, uncle…

    I’ll answer this:

    My father was quite likely a reformed bad boy, tamed by my mother. He used to race hot rods, ride motorcycles, all that stuff. After, he used to go on long hunting trips with his friends when I was a kid, but he did not take me. I barely know anything about his life before he met my mother. Any of the remaining alpha behaviors that weren’t beaten out of him, he didn’t deign to share with me. He never gave me advice about all the social problems I had in middle and high school, I got sent to a useless pyschologist and then nothing. He went to work, and came home, mostly, and didn’t spend time with me.

    My brother flunked out of school, ran away from home at fifteen, and wasn’t in the house all that much. He was the kind of risk-taker, and got first laid by an older woman at fourteen. My parents made it very clear my brother was a loser who thought the world owed him a living, told me he was horrible, and did everything they could to stop me from being like him. So any advice I got from him was suspect.

    My related uncles on my Mom’s side of the family are all betas through and through. The only exception was a non-blood Uncle who lived a few states away.

    Uncles on my father’s side of the family? Never spent any appreciable time with them doing anything. None of them took me out to do “manly” things with them. I was the good kid who followed along and didn’t cause trouble, which means, you mostly get ignored.

    So, that’s how it can happen. Easy… you have a generation or two of “housebroken” men, and then it just stops.

  15. “This. Whenever a guy describes a previous girl as “psycho” or “crazy”, a smart girl will begin to wonder what he did to make her that way.”

    …but a lot of women ARE pyscho and crazy (and possessive) when it comes to breakups. Young women across the nation (including yourself) wonder out loud why men don’t want to get into relationships, “what’s the big deal.” THIS is a large part of the big deal; any guy getting into a “relationship” knows that if it goes bad, no matter the reason he’s going to get trashed in public by her. One of the top two things young women could do to make relationships more palatable to young men is to cool off on the breakup drama. (The other would be to not demand he spend all of his free time with you doing what you want to do.)

    My ex girlfriend and all of her friends regarded a man breaking up with a woman as a criminal act that justified childish punishment. Keying (or worse) his car, posting profanities on his facebook page, talking trash about his reputation, trying to cockblock his future relationships, trying to turn friends against him, attempts at public humiliations, the list goes on. I asked if this was a little extreme, and they always said “he deserved it because ____,” with ____ being that he hurt her “feelings.”

    Their obvious aim is to deter breakups, but they simply deter men from getting “committed” in the first place (up to and including refusing to call what is a functional relationship as such). And punishing the guy just tells him that you ARE nuts and he made the right decision getting away from you.

    Guys know (boy, do we) that breakups and rejection are painful. I wrote my very first blog post about breaking up, and in it I noted that breaking up is the cost of doing business in a free-dating society. The risk of a system in which we choose our mates is one in which someone might choose against you. It’s OK to be disappointed, but he didn’t do anything wrong. You just have to take the pain and start again.

    I wrote another post recently outlining the breakup of my long-term relationship for compatibility reasons, a difficult decision that freed both of us to find partners we were happier with. Two commenters flamed the post multiple times about what a bad guy I was and how I wouldn’t admit what a bad guy I was. The facts didn’t matter to them; a man who breaks up with a woman is evil.

    What’s really pitiful and pathetic is women who accord themselves permanent victim status after breakups. Go over and read DateMeDC, or Diary of Why. For these women, a relationship not working out is not a bump in life’s road to learn from and move past. Instead it’s a life-changing trauma that “rips out a piece of their heart.” (One DoW post actually details breaking into a boyfriend’s voicemail.)

    Quite frankly, they have a massive sense of entitlement – they think THEY should be the only ones who get to decide if they are in a relationship. Men’s opinions and feelings don’t count. For your own self-respect, get over yourselves.

    Dalrock riffed on this in a post he wrote a while back:

    http://dalrock.wordpress.com/2010/11/23/women-are-the-ones-who-want-to-avoid-commitment/

    In comments, I noted that women simply wanted to be the ones calling the shots on getting into and out of relationships. Nothing wrong with protecting your interests, but don’t do it with shame and sanctimony. If a man wants to get into one faster than she does, he’s a creepy controlling stalker. If he wants to go slower, he’s a commitment phobe. If he wants to get out before she does, he’s a bad person causing irreparable emotional pain.

    “There are certain things a man does (out of obliviousness or actual malice) that can make any good woman go feral.”

    This is a reframe that would make a PUA blush; quite honestly, it’s a huge baloney sandwich. Guys don’t “make” women go feral because they call at the wrong time, or don’t wear the clothes women want, or don’t flatter women how and when they want them to. It doesn’t make women look good at all; you’re saying that women can’t be accountable for their emotional reactions to things, so they have to project the problem onto men.

    Happily Ever After or Bust is a very well-written blog of great whimsy and mirth, but her idea to survey a new boyfriend’s exes about the reasons for their breakups

    http://www.happilyeverafterorbust.com/2011/03/according-to-his-ex.html

    is absolutely insane; putting aside the privacy issues, you’re not going to get good information. Has anybody reading this EVER heard a woman speak respectfully of a man after a breakup? Most of what I’ve heard is blinding rage (if he had the nerve to dump her) or contempt and pity (if she dumped him because she lost respect for his manhood).

  16. Looking Glass

    The Father dynamic plays a huge role for guys learning Game, as men tend to learn from other men by observation and small amounts of direction. Like doing home repair, a father really only tells his son “measure twice, cut once” and will show him how to specifically hold things. But it’s all about the “show, not tell” (which is actually a maxim in Movie making; go figure, guys are visual learners :) ) compared to textual or verbal direction. There’s still coordination & discussion, but the actual learning is generally of observation more then trial & error.

    So, without a dad, you really only have the ability to watch other fathers & what you see other people doing. Which means it gets even worse as you see even less fathers. But, lacking a father has a huge impact on guys in this regard.

    From personal experience, I ran into the problem of trying to use too much Beta against my natural Alpha tendencies. I’m definitely not a greater Alpha in Roissy’s construction, I’m a lesser by natural temperament with a heavy independent streak. (Basically: “I can have a better conversation by myself, I’ve got good cooking skills and I can clean up just fine, so why do I need a woman in my life?” style. I’m more than happy just doing my own thing) But in my own relationships, I went super Beta because that’s both the only thing I have from example (single mother) and what *everyone* tells you.

    As a guy, you notice that sex is *far* more available now than it ever has been. (Yay feminism?) So, part of you thinks “well, if the women wanted the sex that much, you’d think they could articulate what they actually want in a relationship”. Little did I, or most guys, know that listening to “women”, as a whole, about relationships is really quite stupid. This comes down a lot to the “only difference between a man & a woman is a Y chromosome and some genitals” fallacy. The truth is we’re *very* different and it’s a hard thing to learn.

    Specifically for males, we *can* break down what we want very easily. It works like this: “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach and his penis.” The basics aren’t hard nor counterintuitive. Guys want comfort (Beta things) and sex (Alpha things), which are the things that make us happy. Neither is sufficient but both are necessary, and a guy will generally tell you if he’s missing one or the other. Sometimes it’s hard to get it out of him, but they’ll be truthful if pushed. The problem is women don’t work by any means the same way. You can break it down to Alpha & Beta, but Alpha is to, effectively, treat a woman with disregard and Beta is to, effectively, tend to her needs. These are very different concepts between the genders. Men have 2 areas that don’t really overlap that much, while for women it’s a continuum of effect. I think this is why female advice to males (of which too many women really want the world to know, it should be noted) is generally so horrible. A guy can point to either A or B not being met, but a woman needs her man to move to a different spot along a sliding scale. That’s a hard thing to do and makes introspection on the topic *extremely difficult*.

    I’m definitely not trying to remove the subtleties to relationships, as we all know there is a massive amount of them, but at their core, the male & female “needs” operate in a different manner. You can reduce male needs down to 2 baskets, but female needs are this strange N-th dimensional continuum that leads to comfort. This creates a huge “observer bias” for women, thus drastically limiting the actually useful advice they can give. If you want a more physical analogy, try this: Men are like faucets with Hot & Cold options; Women are like faucets with a Hot to Cold option. If you turn on both of the Hot & Cold taps at full, the water is generally acceptable, but with a Placement option, you have to find the “sweet spot” to actually accomplish what you need. That analogy work a little? :)

    On the having fathers around aspect, my father actually died when I was very young, so I simply didn’t have those types of experiences on which to draw. This really does cause a lot of problems, especially when there’s things you simply can’t talk to your mother about. I’ve made my way pretty well, but I’d still have been better served if my father had survived. Most kids would be better served if their parents stayed together and solved their problems.

  17. Stephenie Rowling

    Question Badger
    I saw that you have some pointers of “no good for me women” like reading Cosmo (I’m not sure if you think the same for Sex and the city, but possibly) Who about Twilight? Is being a fan of that something that you consider a red flag?
    Thanks on advance. :)

  18. Looking Glass

    Twilight is to Playboy, as Romance Novels are to Penthouse. Just the truth. It’s PG-13 porn for women via wish fulfillment. Vampires are pure Alphas and Bella is completely devoid of any personality to the point that you can see yourself in the character.

    With some of the research coming out on the way women treat literature like men treat visuals, it has to be thought of in that context. But I think it’s a problem if a woman *loves* Twilight. If she just likes it as a sort of trashy, enjoyable story, it’s pretty much just like a guy admiring a nice set of breasts. At least, that’s how I’d take it.

  19. Bb

    It doesn’t make women look good at all; you’re saying that women can’t be accountable for their emotional reactions to things, so they have to project the problem onto men.

    @SayWhaat weigh in and give us your examples. (I’m asking twice again…)

    Has anybody reading this EVER heard a woman speak respectfully of a man after a breakup? Most of what I’ve heard is blinding rage (if he had the nerve to dump her) or contempt and pity (if she dumped him because she lost respect for his manhood).

    Actually, ironically, Single Girl does have a respectful break up post.

    My LTR before BbMan was a great guy, but I broke it off because he wanted to marry me and I knew that we were ultimately not a great fit for marriage. I have nothing but respect for him, and am glad he’s now married to a great women.

    So there are two paltry examples, any other ladies want to weigh in?

    I walked away from my computer for a second, and BbMan wrote this:
    Vampires are utterly useless. Okay, you have eternal life. What do you do with it? Write sonatas? Develop a science? Become the world’s best dentist? No, you troll for high school girls. Forever. Not sure how an utter and eternal lack of ambition translates into “alpha.”

  20. SayWhaat

    @SayWhaat weigh in and give us your examples. (I’m asking twice again…)

    Don’t worry, I’m on it. I have a life outside the Internet too, you know!

    Can you give a specific example of a man *making* a woman behave in a certain way?

    First, a clarification: when I said a man can “make” a woman psycho, what I meant was that he would make her a psycho in hindsight, in the re-telling of his side of the story.

    Say I met a guy who immediately dismissed his ex-gf as a psychobitch. Upon further prodding (which would be socially awkward, really, but hey) he tells me that in the weeks before their breakup, she would call/text him repeatedly and frantically, get really upset when he didn’t answer, and repeatedly caused him drama about why he was always absent when all he wanted was a little “space”.

    What if that girl had legitimate reasons? What if the reason she texted/called repeatedly was because he actually wouldn’t answer the goddamn phone? What if he flaked repeatedly on her in the past and she was trying to get in touch with him about a time-sensitive issue? What if his definition of “a little space” was “another vagina”?

    All of a sudden, this girl has become a psychobitch for crying about this guy who was in actuality an insensitive asshole, which is my point: anyone (male or female) who calls their ex an asshole or psychobitch without a supporting legitimate reason (e.g., he cheated on me) is someone whose character I would immediately question.

    (@ Retrenched: I actually view a girl calling an ex a “jerk” or “asshole” as a corollary of this, although in that case I would also question her own selectivity, i.e. whether she found him asshole-ish at the beginning or months after she had time to heal from the relationship.)

  21. SayWhaat

    @ Badger:

    My ex girlfriend and all of her friends regarded a man breaking up with a woman as a criminal act that justified childish punishment. Keying (or worse) his car, posting profanities on his facebook page, talking trash about his reputation, trying to cockblock his future relationships, trying to turn friends against him, attempts at public humiliations, the list goes on..

    This is completely inexcusable. It’s fine to harbor revenge fantasies, it’s another to act them out. If this is the group that your ex-gf fell under, and if it was apparent that she was easily susceptible to their influence, then I’m sorry to say that you should have been a bit more prudent in selecting her for a relationship.

    “There are certain things a man does (out of obliviousness or actual malice) that can make any good woman go feral.”

    This is a reframe that would make a PUA blush

    *ahem*

    From one of your favorite blogs, MMSL, a comment by Athol Kay himself:

    I’ve had men write me about their “bitchy wife” and it turns out the real turning point was when he skipped out on attending an important funeral to be at the office…

    … there is a point you can push a woman to where even the good girls can turn feral on you.

    (Here’s the post for further reference: http://www.marriedmansexlife.com/2011/02/alpha-professions-and-under-appreciated.html)

    Has anybody reading this EVER heard a woman speak respectfully of a man after a breakup?

    Bb beat me to it with the (published) examples, but one of my best friends (who has ended every single one of her relationships to date) has never spoken ill about her ex-boyfriends, not even to me. She simply said, “I only have nostalgic memories of the good times, and there’s nothing more to talk about when it’s over.”

  22. SayWhaat

    One more thing…

    For these women, a relationship not working out is not a bump in life’s road to learn from and move past. Instead it’s a life-changing trauma that “rips out a piece of their heart.”

    Part of the reason women feel so much pain after a breakup is probably because reproductively-speaking, the loss of the relationship equates to a loss of resources. I’ve also read studies that show that over the course of a relationship (any relationship, even in family roles like mother and son), people begin to depend on each other to fill certain roles (e.g. mother cooks for the family, son is expected to learn how to configure the satellite television, dad takes care of finances, etc.). So the loss of this relationship (such as in a divorce) would wreak havoc on both parties, but for women (who often function as social support and thrive on emotional connections) this pain would manifest as an emotional outburst, whereas men are more reserved.

  23. SayWhaat wrote:

    “Whenever a guy describes a previous girl as “psycho” or “crazy”, a smart girl will begin to wonder what he did to make her that way.”

    No, smart girls don’t do that. Smart girls wonder why the needy girl invested so heavily in these guys – or ANY guy for that matter – in the first place.

    Hypothetical smart girl asks:

    “Why put all the emotional eggs in one basket?”
    “Why be so needy?”
    “Why is she so fragile?”

  24. SayWhaat

    @ Workshy Joe:

    See my corollary to Retrenched.

  25. Bb

    Don’t worry, I’m on it. I have a life outside the Internet too, you know!

    Lol, thanks for getting back with us. I have a life outside the internet too, but for some reason I find this place addicting. Darn you, Badger, and your enticing posts.

    First, a clarification: when I said a man can “make” a woman psycho, what I meant was that he would make her a psycho in hindsight, in the re-telling of his side of the story.

    Thx for the clarity. This is entirely different than what I interpreted from your initial comment, where I thought you meant men cause women to behave crazily. I agree with you in that when a man OR a woman talk about their break-ups and characterize the other person in a non-flattering way, I listen very carefully to their re-telling of it because I’m evaluating:

    a. How much of this story can I believe? If s/he is casting the other person in such a terrible light, what did s/he do to contribute to the break up?

    b. Why would this person pick such a terrible person to date? And how long did they put up with the terrible behavior and WHY?

    c. How is this person going to cast ME if something goes wrong with our relationship?

    It’s a red flag for me if someone bad mouth’s past relationships.

    However, if it’s clear that the person *knew* their past flame was a crazy/jerk going in I automatically think “how hot were they?”

    Roissy had post a while back that said you can raise your SMV by letting girls know you’ve got a stalker. If a guy bragged about that to me, that would be a huge red flag for me seeking an LTR…a guy that attracts stalkers are into dramatic women on L2, and I wouldn’t want to compete with that.

    …but a lot of women ARE pyscho and crazy (and possessive) when it comes to breakups. Young women across the nation (including yourself) wonder out loud why men don’t want to get into relationships, “what’s the big deal.” THIS is a large part of the big deal; any guy getting into a “relationship” knows that if it goes bad, no matter the reason he’s going to get trashed in public by her.

    Are you saying here that an otherwise these women behave in normal, pleasant ways but then shows psychotic behavior *only* during the break-up? If this is the case, I bet she’s just been keeping a lid on the crazy that’s already there, and the break-up blew the lid off. Not pretty, but good to know you made the right decision.

    My ex girlfriend and all of her friends regarded a man breaking up with a woman as a criminal act that justified childish punishment. Keying (or worse) his car, posting profanities on his facebook page, talking trash about his reputation, trying to cockblock his future relationships, trying to turn friends against him, attempts at public humiliations, the list goes on. I asked if this was a little extreme, and they always said “he deserved it because ____,” with ____ being that he hurt her “feelings.”

    Yeah, this would be a flag for me too. Not cool at all, and not mature. And you don’t have to answer this, but: did this ex-gf exhibit these same behaviors she advocated post-break up with you?

    Finally re: respectful break-up stories, of the 3 we heard, the break-ups were all initiated by women. It’d be interesting to see if there were any respectful post-mortems from women who got dumped. I find that more doubtful…

  26. My Name Is Jim

    IMO, Single Girl Blogging’s post about the good online profile was yet another example of how listening to women will steer you wrong. The guy in the example works his azz off creating a perfect nice-guy-funny profile that just gets canned. Solomon’s advice on this was much better. Of course SGB won’t admit it, because no woman with self-esteem would fall for that silly game stuff right. As always, read women between the lines and never play by their rules.

  27. Bb

    @MyNameIsJim
    Well, he didn’t pass her Tingle Test. Sometimes that happens…if a girl wrote a funny, nice profile but didn’t pass your Boner Test, you’d pass her by too, right?

  28. My Name Is Jim

    Put two and two together. Nice guy funny doesn’t induce the clit twinge (at least IME that’s certainly the case). So why bother slaving over a nice guy funny profile. If I’m in the market for a girlfriend, I don’t care if bloggers like my profile and give me a message board lovefest. I’ll trade ‘em all for one good girlfriend prospect. And of course in the comments SGB hamsterizes with ‘no I didn’t reply but some other girls might have, women want different things.’ Translation, LJBF but you’re a wonderful guy and I just know there’s a girl out there that will love you. Come on, that’s what they tell every beta. This guy is beta.

  29. Bb

    @My Name Is Jim Ah, I gotcha. Makes total sense. I didn’t read the comments either on SGB either.

  30. “I saw that you have some pointers of “no good for me women” like reading Cosmo (I’m not sure if you think the same for Sex and the city, but possibly)”

    Most urban women have seen a lot of SATC. The problem is when they think it’s real life or the way things ought to be. Those who can compartmentalize entertainment from reality are OK, those who can’t are trouble.

    However, those who have this problem are going to have a LOT of issues with entitlement, problem-solving, solipsism, etc, so there will be other more obvious warning signs. If she owns the DVDs I’d start to wonder – and would fitness test her a bit.

    “Who about Twilight? Is being a fan of that something that you consider a red flag?”

    Context matters. If she liked to read a lot of literature, it’s natural to pick up a popular novel of today. But if Twilight was the only long-form book she ever cracked, I’d wonder about her choice of culture and intellectual vigor. (I have a long list of classics I plan to read, my Badgerette will have to at least appreciate them.) But again, a low-intensity mind would manifest in other ways too, so it’s not a litmus test. Sketches of Edward inside the dust jacket would be a huge red flag.

  31. Stephenie Rowling

    “Context matters. If she liked to read a lot of literature, it’s natural to pick up a popular novel of today. But if Twilight was the only long-form book she ever cracked, I’d wonder about her choice of culture and intellectual vigor. (I have a long list of classics I plan to read, my Badgerette will have to at least appreciate them.) But again, a low-intensity mind would manifest in other ways too, so it’s not a litmus test.”

    Heh okay fair enough. I will say that you are probably too old to run into one of the younger fans, but for many of them Twilight was their first book but this has opened their minds to reading and are reading a lot of other books now so I guess it wouldn’t disqualified them.

    “Sketches of Edward inside the dust jacket would be a huge red flag.”

    Heh I will have to agree with this, unless she is doing an art project to profit from other twihards… Yeah I make that excuse on the spot I am that good ;)

    Oh and Badgeret is adorable, again if my sister was not totally unfit for dating I would be totally matchmaking you too. :)

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