Marc Rudov’s Ten Commandments

From thenononsenseman.comI found this list in an old email from Marc Rudov, the “No-Nonsense Man.”  It’s also featured in his book The Man’s No Nonsense Guide to Women: How to Succeed in Romance on Planet Earth.
  1. Look in the mirror before peering through a window
  2. Men and women are from Earth; never accept or tolerate a woman from any other planet
  3. Make only those demands on a woman that you place on yourself
  4. Accept only those demands from a woman that she places on herself
  5. If you keep doing the same things, you will keep getting the same results
  6. Always obey your instincts; always update your instincts
  7. When meeting a woman, what you see is what you get. If you don’t like it, move on. Never:
    a. Be on a mission to change her
    b. Fall in love with her potential—–what you think she could/should become
  8. A relationship’s future must be gauged by its heartbeat, not its history or its potential
  9. Remember that life is short—–happiness, loneliness, and dysfunction are choices
  10. Never stay in a relationship where you spend a lot of time avoiding pain.

Marc closes with: “How many of these commandments have you kept?” I would add that you can change all the female nouns to male ones and the advice still works 100%.

 

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11 responses to “Marc Rudov’s Ten Commandments

  1. Excellent list. #8 is the one that resonates most for me – this is a very common mistake. #9 is also powerful, and applies to a lot more than relationships – I just read A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle, which covers this ground very effectively.

  2. NMH

    I dunno. Marc Rudov espouses equality between the sexes, in professional and personal relationships. I expect what this means is that he believes a woman should be able to accept an equal male, and then accept him treating her like an equal.

    If this is correct, then Rudov basically says fuck women’s hypergamy: its immature. This goes against what ep and experience says what a woman truly wants: a man better than her that will treat like an equal.

    It also seems to go against game which accepts women’s hypergamy and exploits this instinct to get the best of her.

    Marc is inspirational, but his rules for the terms of a relationship probably wont work–for the most part, a woman can’t stand a man that is an equal.

    However, if all men were to act in Rudov’s manner we could finally control hypergamy, which I think arguably is the singlemost destructive cultural tendency in the feminist reality that is the west.

    [I'm not inside his mind but as I understand it, Rudov's push is to have equality in dating norms but for men to have some game, which gives them to ability to tickle the hypergamy even though they are equals on paper. His personal experience, to judge from his bio and statements, is with urban white-collar men and women - thus women who have no excuse for not practicing dating equality, and a lot of guys who have bought into feminism (soft or hard) and thus operate out of either supplication or fear.]

  3. Point two is rather dubious for me. The whole reason that Game exists is that women are not like men.

    Some of the sex differences are really obvious.

    If women were anything like men, then sending a woman a photograph of your erect dick would be a good dating stratagem.

    Some differences are more subtle.

    Being agreeable and accomodating will score a woman serious points with a man but if a man does that with a woman he’s seen as passionless, boring, submissive and weak.

    Its a real shame that John Gray’s Mars-Venus thesis is so closely identified with the idea of immutable sex differences in our inner lives.

    My first serious relationship exploded the idea that women “talk about feelings” when they are upset and that guys “retreat to the cave”. What a crock!

  4. SayWhaat

    “Being agreeable and accomodating will score a woman serious points with a man but if a man does that with a woman he’s seen as passionless, boring, submissive and weak”.

    If a man is disagreeable and unaccommodating, it is just as much of a turn-off for women. Compromise is necessary in any relationship.

  5. “Men and women are from Earth; never accept or tolerate a woman from any other planet”
    By this he means don’t date feminists who say that women are good and men are bad. We’re all human.

  6. @SayWhaat: I have always been punished for being the Nice Guy. Either dumped or Shit Tested to death. Its a hackneyed old internet meme for a good reason. Its true!

  7. SayWhaat

    @ Workshy Joe:

    Women punish Nice Guys. They fuck Good Guys.

    Think about the difference for a second.

  8. Workshy Joe, SayWhaat –

    I think you two are speaking slightly different languages. I take WJ as saying that supplication and lack of leadership – capitalized Nice Guy-ism – have yielded nothing but failure. He’s right, many men can tell the same story. Meanwhile, SayWhaat is saying that being unpleasant to be around isn’t going to get a man any poon from a woman who’s worth having.

    I find two problems with John Gray’s ideas. One is that, like Freud, he appears to draw his inferences from patients in his practice, who are going to display twisted and neurotic versions of their traits that don’t translate to normal relationships. The other is that the concept that men and women are so different as to be from different planets can be (and is) used as a crutch by people who have no interest in understanding or compromising with their counterpart. “I’m SUPPOSED to have emotional outbursts, I’m a woman!! I’m SUPPOSED to be insecure about driving the car, I’m a man!”

    (To be frank, the totality of Gray’s examples sounded like a bunch of pampered suburban empty-nesters. Both the men and the women could have used a lot more internal alpha and gumption instead of blaming their partners for why their lives were miserable.)

  9. The reason Rudov pushes equality so much is that his efforts serve to highlight the huge differences between the male and female of our species.

    His efforts also serve to expose the hypocrisy of feminism.

  10. Hana

    “7# When meeting a woman, what you see is what you get. If you don’t like it, move on. Never:
    a. Be on a mission to change her
    b. Fall in love with her potential—–what you think she could/should become”

    This is pretty good universal advice for both men and women in romantic relationships and even people in platonic friendships, as far as I’m concerned. If you only like the fantasy of a person or the possibility of who they could be, you don’t like the real person–only the person in your mind.

    [This reminds me of a warning sign of a narcissist - do you feel like you are playing a role in their stories?]

  11. Jennifer

    The best list on this blog.

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